The Fading Facade

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The Fading Facade
 

fa·cade

fəˈsäd/
noun

• an outward appearance that is maintained to conceal a less pleasant or creditable reality.

Dear Diary,

I held my breath as long as I could until he walked by. Lord knows if I had exhaled a moment too soon every latch hook on my girdle would pop off and hit him right between the eyes. BOOM!! Down on the ground David vs. Goliath style. Perhaps when he came to, mine would be the first face he saw and I’d forever be known as the lovely woman he met on a crowded city street that saved his life. Though we’d spend our first date in the ER, it’d be the perfect story to tell our children!

Uh oh…

We actually made eye contact and now he’s doing the predictable glance over his shoulder to see if all was well behind me. Lord please don’t let him stare too long, lest the disappointment shatter his little heart and we end up back in the ER! I did not have time to forewarn him that although I was blessed with Grandma’s legs, the rest of me was assembled out of leftover parts from my Grandfather.

Ah and so the façade begins to fade…

Selah…

When I started blogging many moons ago (ok 2 weeks ago today), a follower of my blog whom I greatly admire, wanted to know who my target audience was. I responded tout de suite donning sophomoric glee with “EVERYONE!”. Their kind smile was a hint that the Similac on my breath was noticeable as they gingerly introduced solid food for thought in response. It began with a warm voice and an emphatic, “No! Marketing 101 says…”

I humbly listened intently because there is safety in the multitude of counsel and I hadn’t given much thought about targeting anyone. Though the feedback provided made perfect sense and left an indelible impression on me, my response remained the same. It only seemed fitting that a “shade free no judgment zone” should be a safe place for any passerby. At least it should be, right?

Here’s why…

As noted in my initial post Mind If I Join You, I have a burden for hurting people and I understand that can be too general a term for some. However I’ve learned over the years that hurting people are everywhere hiding in plain sight, neatly tucked away in every audience behind many a smile.

Life offers several opportunities to hold our proverbial breath as others walk by, wouldn’t you say? Our posture cowers as we silently hope they can’t smell the residue of the broken dreams, internal bleeding or unbreakable habits we’re emanating. It then somehow becomes easier and easier to pretend rather than be; exist instead of live. We work so hard on appearing aesthetically flawless, mentally sound, financially secure and emotionally stable that we don’t have the depth, character or fortitude necessary to sustain the high winds of life.

Ah and so the façade begins to fade…

I recently discovered that I had an unguarded area of my life that had weakened my structure. I didn’t realize that I had endured so much damage at the hands of life’s betrayal, that there were cracks and hairline fractures encompassing my heart. I thought I was impenetrable…turns out I was numb. As I daily seek God about this unexpected chapter of my life story, I turn the page without regret. I firmly believe that if it didn’t happen, when and how it did, detection would’ve surfaced at a less than ideal time resulting in catastrophic circumstances.

Ah and so the façade begins to fade…

What about you?  When is the last time you authentically self assessed without obsessing about what they would think? Though it may be difficult to confront the you in you, it’s time to be strengthened instead of just looking strong. I encourage you to not let the weight of what awaits you slowly cascade as a feather upon your heart and mind, only to crush you upon impact.

  • When is the last time you took all of your burdens to the Lord and left them there?
  • Or genuinely prayed (not counting grace before a meal)?
  • When’s the last time you worshipped without restraint plagued by time constraints?
  • When is the last time you had a good sho ’nuff ugly cry?
  • When was the last time you were honest about what’s really bothering you?
  • Would you even recognize your own voice if you heard it?
  • What are the blind spots, paper cuts, sensitive teeth, Kryptonite and Achilles heels of your heart that don’t hurt until exposed to the elements of life that catch you off guard?
  • When is the last time I followed my own advice?

If you we don’t pass self inspection today, it’s ok. Give yourself permission to be HUMAN and be assured that amidst many, you are NOT alone!

Ah and so the façade begins to fade…

Wisdom and discretion is imperative in this season! Everyone can’t handle all of you nor deserves an all access badge. If support is needed, humble yourself and seek God for direction. You might need professional counseling or a heart to heart with a mature objective party. It’s time to stop putting bandaids on areas of your life that actually need major surgery.

Before you go, do you mind if we pray?

Lord, I pray for the person reading this now and ask that You would begin to minister to the deepest part of who they are. I pray God that healing would begin to take place in their heart as You bring comfort to the comfortless areas of their being. Father, bring order to the chaos and align their steps with peace of mind, provision and strategy. I thank you for knowing all about us and still wanting us.

Amen

Ah and so the façade is gone

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19 thoughts on “The Fading Facade

  1. “…it’s time to be strengthened instead of just looking strong…” -AWESOME! You have once again dug deep down and managed to express the aching of so many broken souls. Brilliant! Thank you for saying YES to God and writing this blog. Love you to life sis! Keep on doing what only YOU have been born to do. Amen! 💗

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  2. Powerful and humbling…I pray for the grace to handle the raw exposure of who I really am won’t send me to a catatonic shock, but to my knees seeking grace and mercy for that need…keep blessing the people with your anointed insights

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  3. We are blessed to be so infinitely and unconditionally loved. Thank you for your healing prayer. I join you in your prayer (edited using all-encompassing first person plural):

    Lord, I pray and ask that You minister to the deepest part of who we are. I pray God that healing takes place in our hearts as You bring comfort to the comfortless areas of our being. Father, bring order to the chaos and align our steps with peace of mind, provision and strategy. I thank you for knowing all about us and still wanting us.

    Amen

    May the façade be gone.

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  4. Sho nuff ugly cry? Oh, bout a week ago … He’s still on staff at our church, still living in our house, still running our business without me. And I still don’t wanna be seein’ what’s in his closet. Nuff said?

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  5. This is a great post! Everyone needs to pull down the fascade. I’m always self-obsessing over everything. I did it with assignments in school too haha. Your words inspire others every day :).

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  6. So well said: we work so hard on appearing aesthetically flawless, mentally sound, financially secure and emotionally stable that we don’t have the depth, character or fortitude necessary to sustain the high winds of life.

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