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I write a lot of love poetry. A lot of it is deep and speaks of great longing. I even had one subscriber say “You write like you’re single…” and though I never responded, I thought, “BEST COMPLIMENT EVER LOL!!“.

See, I started this blog on Jan. 10, 2015 and I committed to honest writing. So when Valentine’s Day was on the horizon, only a month later, I was ready to retire. How could I write honestly about a day that caused me so much pain? However it was my husband, Kevin Arthur, who I’ve been with for almost 22 years and married to for almost 18 years that said, “You can’t stop now Baby, you just won the Most Versatile Blogger Award! People are waiting!!”. So I closed my eyes, went for it and ended up writing one of my favorite, most raw and transparent pieces to date entitled, “When You’re Not Your Valentine’s Only Valentine.

I started this blog to be a non judgmental, shade free source of  inspiration for those who were exhausted with the mundane. Those who could appreciate my heart for suicide prevention and could relate to, or appreciate my commitment to authenticity. However had I not had the support of my husband, an artist himself, authenticitee – inspiration without the other stuff, would have ceased almost one month from its inception. And that ladies and gentleman is the truth.

 There are so many super deep saints that have refrained from supporting me publicly but deal with all of the issues I candidly write about privately. I’ve been both legalistic and liberal so I can relate…

BUT I thank God for a BALANCE (now) coupled with the courage and strength needed to walk in this lane of honest writing, even when it comes to addressing the difficult side of love. There is nothing new under the sun; remember it was not unusual for religious people to seek answers and direction privately from JESUS Himself when he walked the Earth.

(Insert disclaimer here that I am not comparing myself to the Lord but referring to it as an age old ocular demonstration)😏

So are my poems and pieces true? Yep. Every single last one of them unless noted otherwise…ah but they are not all current experiences!    (A few were actually inspired by the experiences of others too). When I write, I do see the eyes of whoever inspired the piece. It feels incredible as a writer to  freely express myself on every level; be it a snapshot of my tomorrow or suppressed memories of yesteryear triggered by current circumstance.

This writing thing we do…it’s a beautiful thang ~ Ericka Arthur

My husband is a subscriber and so is my Momma…I’m so grateful lol. Oh and the occasion? None….no occasion other than the brevity of life. I’ve lived long enough to know that the future is not promised, and me missing an opportunity to tell Kevin Arthur thank you…again, was an option I just didn’t want to choose tonight.💘e

© Ericka Arthur and authenticitee, 2015 Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Ericka Arthur and authenticitee with appropriate and specific direction to the original content

Photo Credit
: Ericka Arthur for authenticitee. My husband Kevin Arthur & I (Throwback Thursday November 2013)

Kevin Arthur pictures with Sting after playing for Sting & Common In Central Park, NYC September 26, 2015


  1. Beautifully and so well said!

    One day I am going to borrow you and have you speak to a group of women (I am praying this can really happen). We need more women like you to publicly speak the truth and be willing to be RAW! it’s reality and I myself finally became tired of running from MYSELF!!!

    Thank you for being E! As long as I’ve known you.
    Thanking God for blessing me with an awesome sister in Christ!!!!

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    • Wow Drea I am so humbled by your comment! Thank you for reading and thank you for taking the time to let me know you were here! I am EXTREMELY grateful for you & support. Not sure if you realize but you were actually the first person to comment on my first blog, Mind If I Join You!!


  2. Yaaaassss! I love this! I love yall!!! xox oh and btw you get a BOOYAH!!!! for clarifying for the folk who don’t get the whole cathartic writing thang. We have a lot in common esp when it comes to expressing how, when, and where we pull from our experiences.

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  3. Your story is wonderful, Ericka, and I’m so happy you’ve continued here and happy to have “met” you, as well. You and your hubby are truly blessed and I wish you happiness for many, many more years to come. I’m thankful for my hubby, too, after almost twenty-seven years of marriage, so it’s nice to read a similar story. Much love, Lauren

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    • Hey Lauren, how are you? So nice to hear from you, I’m long overdue for a visit to Baydreamer!

      Thank you for reading and taking the time to give feedback😌

      Thank you for speaking life and blessings and I love your story of 27 years of marriage!

      I think the funniest/oddest thing is some who feel it’s been easy or drama free lol. It just means (for me) that loving and staying with Kevin Arthur through the storms is not as one with her head in the sand. Love this long is an informed decision. God’s strength not OURS💞

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      • Oh, long lasting relationships are never drama free, but they’re worth the work necessary to keep them alive. I agree with you, Ericka, that committing to someone long term (forever) is an informed decision and God’s strength, indeed. Blessings to you and just visit Baydreamer when you can, no worries. 🙂

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